A Step into Reality: What’s a Healthy Relationship?

Defining a healthy relationship is not easy. It is harder than you think because when we say a person is having a healthy relationship, he or she should be happy almost at all times, right? Well, here’s the little trick - A person can be in a bad relationship but feels happy and like there is nothing wrong. How bad is a bad relationship, really? I say a little too much of control, a little too much of discrimination, a lot of one-side selfishness, and of course, anything that’s near DV (Domestic Violence).

A relationship can turn sour at times but that doesn’t mean that you’re having an unhealthy relationship. It’s going to occur in a number of times during your relationship because relationship itself, in nature never stays the same. It’ll change just as people do along the way.

So what exactly is a healthy relationship?

I’d say a healthy relationship is made up of few subjective aspects that are number one -you should be happy, number two-you should be happy at most times, and number three -you should be happy when you choose to be happy, and not vice versa. What does this mean? Well, take for example a person often quarrels with his or her partner over trivial matters most of the time, there’s no toleration, no giving in and high ego tension. You’re not happy but to keep your face around your friends and family, you say that you’re happy -even when it is excruciating inside. Why you said that you’re happy? - Because you love her or him so much. Are you having a healthy relationship - No. If you feel a certain relationship is pushing you too much over the edge, than that’s the hint of you’re in an unhealthy relationship. But never forget to access yourself before making any assumptions and decision to ensure that whether you’ve played your role sufficiently?

Just like being happy, being in a healthy relationship is what you choose to be only that it takes two to achieve it. Of course, there’s a grave need for commitment, trust, self-respect and even a little bit of individual freedom - irrefutably these qualities are all the necessities in a relationship, even more for a healthy one.

Let’s face it, couples in a relationship are people too, and as human beings we all make mistakes. In other saying - a healthy relationship doesn’t necessarily that the relationship has to be perfect. There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship in this world, and there’s no such thing as a perfect person in this world too. If we were to group relationships in this category, I’m pretty sure there’ll be none at all. You should know more from your own instinct when it comes to healthy relationship; it’s when your head say it so and when people close to you feel it too. Nobody can say they’re happy so freely and casually when in truth they’re not.

So if you want a healthy relationship - no pressure and you’re happy. That’s the way things should be.

End of writer’s block.