A Step into Reality: What’s a Healthy Relationship?

Defining a healthy relationship is not easy. It is harder than you think because when we say a person is having a healthy relationship, he or she should be happy almost at all times, right? Well, here’s the little trick - A person can be in a bad relationship but feels happy and like there is nothing wrong. How bad is a bad relationship, really? I say a little too much of control, a little too much of discrimination, a lot of one-side selfishness, and of course, anything that’s near DV (Domestic Violence).

A relationship can turn sour at times but that doesn’t mean that you’re having an unhealthy relationship. It’s going to occur in a number of times during your relationship because relationship itself, in nature never stays the same. It’ll change just as people do along the way.

So what exactly is a healthy relationship?

I’d say a healthy relationship is made up of few subjective aspects that are number one -you should be happy, number two-you should be happy at most times, and number three -you should be happy when you choose to be happy, and not vice versa. What does this mean? Well, take for example a person often quarrels with his or her partner over trivial matters most of the time, there’s no toleration, no giving in and high ego tension. You’re not happy but to keep your face around your friends and family, you say that you’re happy -even when it is excruciating inside. Why you said that you’re happy? - Because you love her or him so much. Are you having a healthy relationship - No. If you feel a certain relationship is pushing you too much over the edge, than that’s the hint of you’re in an unhealthy relationship. But never forget to access yourself before making any assumptions and decision to ensure that whether you’ve played your role sufficiently?

Just like being happy, being in a healthy relationship is what you choose to be only that it takes two to achieve it. Of course, there’s a grave need for commitment, trust, self-respect and even a little bit of individual freedom - irrefutably these qualities are all the necessities in a relationship, even more for a healthy one.

Let’s face it, couples in a relationship are people too, and as human beings we all make mistakes. In other saying - a healthy relationship doesn’t necessarily that the relationship has to be perfect. There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship in this world, and there’s no such thing as a perfect person in this world too. If we were to group relationships in this category, I’m pretty sure there’ll be none at all. You should know more from your own instinct when it comes to healthy relationship; it’s when your head say it so and when people close to you feel it too. Nobody can say they’re happy so freely and casually when in truth they’re not.

So if you want a healthy relationship - no pressure and you’re happy. That’s the way things should be.

End of writer’s block.

Are You in Love With A Younger Man?

Undeniably, love is ageless. But loving a younger man still doesn’t seem to ease things out…

And people say that love is blind too, but let’s just put the latter aside for while. Age gap seems to be quite a controversial issue and problem nowadays, whether it be in working life and even in a relationship. However, our main focus this time is something like the Catherine Zeta Jones - Michael Douglas kind of scenario. Relationship of a younger woman with an older man is not something unusual. As a matter of fact it is pretty common and natural since it was practiced even in the olden times. What happens when it is the other way around?

Can an older woman date a younger man?

An older woman and a younger man - this will surely raise certain issues. Most people in the Asian countries especially may feel a little tad bit uncomfortable with this kind of thing. But regardless of the regional aspect it is still quite an issue even in the western countries, especially when the woman is a very successful career woman. People around will start tagging these women as sugar mummies as such, but that’s not fair at all isn’t it? Should age really be an issue in a relationship? But statistics show that it certainly has certain impacts for a relationship but it is not some kind of prohibition and unachievable. Thus saying it is more like an exception than it is a rule.

Woman who wants to date younger have to take few things into consideration, and love isn’t enough. After all, it isn’t love at all when you feel like you’re being used or discriminated, right? But of course, not all young men are scrubs. Some are even mature enough to match your own and can be very gentlemen, caring and understanding. Get your own sorting tools out and you should be able to see if the young love is worth it and the right one for you; or maybe after sometime you’ll probably notice it isn’t love at but you’re just care deeply.

For young man who wants to date an older woman, you may be faced with more blunders and problems, but just like men always do. They’ll pretend they don’t care and see what’s coming. Nothing is too complicated for them. But it’s totally different when you’re really serious about it right?
Nevertheless, you’ll never know how it’s like if you don’t give it a try, and see if this kind of relationship fits you well. Young men can sometimes be a little demanding and forceful while older women can be a little too reserved, workaholic and boastfully egoistic. But if love’s strong enough, those things can be changed and even tolerated. Plus, experience sharing is much more enriched since both have different perspectives, understandings of things and life that both parties can share with one another, somehow broadening their views towards life and things. You can try new and exciting things with your young lover - it keeps you young at hear too and young guys can level up their senses and maturity with more responsibilities and commitment coming along the relationship - it helps you to cherish life and people more. Anyway, it is purely a personal decision to make. Just keep it sincere and be honest to yourself and other people.