The Cons of Having an Affair with a Married Man

What makes a smart woman stupid is by having an affair with a married man. But this is not a new issue to begin with. It’s not entirely a foreign issue for us, really. Women from the olden times, even famous and intelligent ones are fairly involved in extramarital affairs. And it drags on till today. So, it’s rather ironic to call these women stupid because most of those involved in love affairs with married man (and I mean seriously falling in love and not due to some conspiracy or anything) are smart, intelligent and women of high profile in nature. Love is wonderful, but at certain point in life, by taking a simple wrong step can tarnish your life forever.

If you asked a woman who is having an intimate relationship with a married man on nothing but merely love basis the question why they would let herself suffer like that and being treated nothing more like a mistress, they’ll probably have only one sentence to reply to you, which is the often-heard ‘You won’t know how I feel because you’re not in my shoe’. But do we have to be in their shoe to actually know how’s it feel like? After all, when something like this happens to someone dear to us, take our friends or sisters for example, we probably be hurt too just by watching how they are going through all that affair thing as part of their life.

There is only one simple cure to save yourself from this emotional blunder that if you’ve taken up the risk will have a huge toll on your life, and the sad part is that it may affect your mind a lifetime. Like it or not, extramarital dating is a dangerous game.

If you feel like you’re in the verge of falling in love with a married man, stop there right now! Well, it’s after, your choice in life but take some time to answer these questions and think it all through.

Is it worth it to have an affair with a married man?

You will be showered with his pretty promises that 99% of the times, but he won’t be able to make it. He will say stuff about leaving his wife and all, but they rarely did in real life stories. You’ll be living in a fake dreams, a world of your own, small and timid and full of blurry edges. Will you still think it’s worth to waste your precious time away with this kind of man?

Why a married man?

There’s plenty of men out there, single and available. If you’re grudging the fact that most single guys are useless and hopeless, what about married man? Are they hopeful and useful for you? Emotionally? In a long period of time, will the relationship still be comforting for you? You may say it’s only for a play-around but as you age, you’ll probably think of a more committed relationship, a bind through marriage. If you happened to not know that he was married and got into a relationship, think this: Do you really think you could fall in love with a man who lied to you about his marital status in the first place?

Are you prepared for the long wait?

Yes, in the beginning (and maybe till the end), are you ready for the long wait? Promises after promises, year after year, he’s still not ready to leave his family for you. Most of the time, it’s pretty regular for man to decide that they want to make their marriage work after all. So, if you get to your sense and think simple, as this question to yourself, if he loves you, if he really loves you, he’d probably have already left his wife for you, right from the beginning. And when he says that hell leave his wife someday, you believe him again, and you’ll be back at base one of the never-ending circle only to find out in the end, that being together is impossible.

Being a mistress simply means that you are and always be the second priority, the one to be sacrificed, to be left behind and only be there for comfort. Sometimes, it seems the relationship was more sexual than like a real relationship of commitment. Some women even fall for the ‘My wife doesn’t treat me good’ kind of trick. That guy may say all the bad things about his wife but never leave her. Why? Because he’s just playing you, using you for his own leisure and comfort. Cause, if he’s really having a conflict with his wife, and have fallen out of love, he would have left her before he even knew you.

Many women who were involved in extramarital relationship and love have learned their lesson, and most of the time, the hard way. Are you willing to live your life in that transparent confinement? Only you have the answers, and the will to save yourself from this cruel blunder.

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